When the baby idea grew for my husband and I couldn’t imagine leaving our child behind to go back to sea but like saying “trust the timing of your life” when we found out we were pregnant and I had to go on light duty office work, I landed in a new DPA position that the company had created due to compliance obligations. This to me was like a miracle I never had to leave my child but coming ashore took a few unexpected adjustments let me mention a few you prepare all your meals, you get stuck in traffic every day, and you sit in front of screens majority of your day, endless boardroom meetings, all while adjusting to motherhood. I must say this really made me miss my quiet deep see days but that thought also made me feel a little guilty.
It’s very easy to lose yourself back on land, I realized I needed to embrace my new life by learn from other moms and that’s when @mamas_escape_club was born a blog that I founded to motivate busy moms through the perks and woes of motherhood. We are a community of young thriving moms encouraging each other not to lose ourselves in motherhood but rather find ourselves. The club itself became an ESCAPE for me slowly but surely I was able to explore many more personal interests, A year in existence @mamas_escape_club got recognition for the Best Support Group.
For me without a doubt a pivoting moment in my life was when I became a mother. And for a female seafarer who sees themselves as a mom one day I just want to say that it won’t be easy but most certainly worth it, document your dreams and aspirations while you are still at sea and that which will equip you in finding direction when you leave the sea one day.
oh yeah.. I’m Londy Ngcobo now 33, born in Durban, South Africa. I worked as a 3rd mate for Maersk until 2011 and moved to Dredging vessels back in South Africa where I earned a title Africa’s First Female Dredge Master. I am now a Designated Person Ashore (DPA) and Marine Compliance Manager. I do visit my vessels to maintain the connection (which will never really die)” More of what I stand for is on my TEDx talk https://youtu.be/iM0hvBRO9Zk